Ask Anjali – How can I reduce sensation on my penis?

Sanjay says: Hiii Anjali… I’m regular viewer of your column. Your answers are super. Seems that you explored each and every thing in sex. Well done Gr8 job you are doing.

I have one problem. I use to rub my dick with my body when I’m hot. Due to this my dick skin is so sensitive that at the time of sex I feel sensation in whole dick. Due to this I ejaculate in few minutes. Please advice me what to do to reduce sensation in my dick skin.

Anjali says: Hi Sanjay. I’m glad you are enjoying my column. I enjoy writing it. And I enjoy sharing with everyone as well.

Many men out there have a very sensitive penis. In fact, most men do to some degree. That is why a lot of men prefer to use condoms. They come in all different sizes and shapes so everyone should be able to find a type of condom that works for them. And they can be fun as well, with different flavors and ribbing and such.

The part that would work best for you is that they do help decrease sensitivity a bit. Not so much that you won’t be able to cum but perhaps enough that it will help you last longer. Another trick that some men use is to masturbate before they are going to be with their lady. If a man cums once it usually takes some time to get hard again and then once he is hard he will usually not cum so fast. Give that a try. She might even like to watch! As I have mentioned before, I quite like watching a guy stroke his penis until he cums!

And just as a side note, you may see advertisements for creams and such that will de-sensitize but I don’t recommend them. You never know exactly what is in them and you can’t be sure they won’t cause an allergic reaction of some type and I don’t think you want that there! Stick with natural methods as I have suggested above.

If you have a question that you’d like Aunty Anjali to answer click here and leave a comment at the bottom of this post with your question in it!

136 Responses to “Ask Anjali – How can I reduce sensation on my penis?”

  1. pravin says:

    hi Anjali,
    i’m pravin 21yrs old male.i started to mastrubate when i was 15 and till
    now i am not able to control the feeling to mastrubate,i do it 3 to 4
    times a week.in my early days when i started to mastrubate,i used to do it
    in the night and after mastrubating i would leave the sperms in my
    undergarments itself.3 yrs back i got itching sesation around my penis
    area.now its spreading more and more and formation of blue patches occur
    and the itching feeling is unbearable.i think it is due to the sperms
    which i leave it after mastrubating in my underwear.i’m really feeling shy
    to consult a doctor.i would request to suggest me a medicine or oinment as
    i wouldn’t consult a doctor at any cost.

  2. santosh says:

    my wife has given birth 2 babyboy so wen we can do sex

  3. santosh says:

    my wife has given birth 2 baby boy so wen can we do sex plz reply

  4. sai says:

    hi Anjali

    this sai i have a frnd of aunt y she is married and she have one son also but she will talk to daily in phone i think she want to do with me sex but she is not ask she around 32years so h to ask her that i want do sex with her can you help abut this . plz .give any idea one time we meet for few mints that after that we did meet at all but we will talk daily in phone ……so plz help me .

  5. yani says:

    hi anjli i like ur suggessions plz suggest me meri wife jaldi sex nahi chadta mene pehle kai ladkio ko choda hai but mein apni wife se vo maja nai pa raha hu kya koi aisi tablet ya pill hai jisse meri wife jaldi garm ho jaye aur hum sex ko pura enjoy kar sake plz reply

  6. Rajesh Kumar says:

    Hi Anjali madam
    Hope you are doing well.
    I’m reading your answers to the people questions.All the ans. are very good.

    I’ve one doubt.I’m recently going to be married.I just want to do sex with my wife without condom at first night.Will she become pregnant if both have sex for the first time ?

  7. Asif says:

    Dear Anjali,
    Your suggestions are superb and i like them…..
    I am 18 years old…….but i’ve been masturbating from 2 years…I usually masturbates 4 to 5 times a week but sometimes even more. My problem is that I ejaculate very fast in just 2 minutes. Is this normal and now i don’t feel very nice in ejaculating. Do masturbating affect my sex life or having sex with some girl. I wan’t to improve my sex power and strength. And what are the ways to seduce a girl.
    Reply

  8. vincan says:

    hello, mam , i hav submitted before but no response,mam i’m 24 yrs,i’m masturbating from the age of 13 but still a virgin, and now i’m depressed b’coz i hav lot of sexuall desire to control i masturbate. B’coz of this desire i lost my concentration & can’t study properly & can’t do anything unless i masturbate. so pls pls pls pls pls tell me a way of controlling my desire. Where in i can lead a normal life. I can’t be controlled by sexuall desire. man should controll everything. so pls pls help me i’m fully depressed.

  9. Prem says:

    Hi Anjali
    i used to masturbate from the age of 18 daily once. now that i am married i dont get proper errection and i am not able to insert into her pussy. i get errection when i masturbate now is it a errectile dsyfunction or if i stop the masturbation for 6 months or so i will get my the natural errection and can have sex.should i consult a doctor.kindly advice me looking very kuch upto you.

  10. Michael says:

    Anjili I had a break up with my Girl friend last year. I dont believe in love in first sight even. Sometimes she comes in my mind which simply disturbs me. Actually I made her my Girl friend just for having sex only. But I my wish was not completed. What should I do to forget her ? should I have sex with some other girl ? or something else ?

  11. rajaram says:

    hi, i m raja ,i dont have gf. bt i hv some sexual feeling .how can i get girl friends. i m not fair

  12. raja says:

    hi, i m raja ,i dont have gf. bt i hv some sexual feeling .how can i get girl friends. i m not fair

  13. Roshan Alizee says:

    Hi aunty..You are doing a great job and you should continue to do the same..I’m 22/m. My problem is that, when i practice the “squeeze technique”. some amount of semen comes out but i manage for the rest to go back..Is there any harm in doing so..?
    My next problem is that, my penis is like a “supersonic jet” at the tip..Is there any problem? (Let me know), because of which i cannot retard my foreskin. Please help me with my problems. Thank You.

  14. Babu says:

    Hi Anjali,

    You are really good to resolve & build confidence in sex related queries. Thanks.

    I’m 28M. When I have sex with partner, I get immediately ejacuted. Can you please suggest for the best prectices to enjoy sex fully and then ejacuate.

    Thanks.

  15. bablu says:

    hi anjali this is bablu here 25 yr age i just get to know abt this site and after visting i found ur articles. u r solving everyones sexual problems and querries abt sex , u r just mind blowing u resolve the issues in very simple manner and thats what i liked abt u . u take everyhing positively thats what make u so amazing .

    i wud like to ask u many questions but
    first i wud like to tell u that till now i havent touched any girls more that hand shakking (and that also with 2 or 4 girls) now since 5 years i found that i get attracted towards every girl lady aunty means whenever i see female i only thik of fucking them i cant think beyond this
    so can u tell me is this thing normal and is this thing is happening coz i never touched a girl

    my tecticles have different sizes
    my pennis is bend towards left is this things normal and how can i approach to a girl for sex can u tell me some better idea
    as u also know everyone in this world wanna have sex with everyone
    i also have the feeling of having sex with atleast 10 different girls just wanna taste all the girls
    is the redlight area is the last stopaage for fulfilling this
    or some standard girls can do so

  16. Patty69 says:

    Hi Anjali,
    Fiirst and foremost,let me congratulate you on the job you are doing in helping people with their difficulties. Also the response is so nice and erotic that I find it difficult to hide bulges and hardness of my cock in my pants. I wish we can have some fun somewhere.

    Now my question is related to the disinterest shown by my wife and my search for sexual satisfaction. As I had written to you previously, my wife has no interest in sex. Earlier I had a few extra pounds but I have a masculine body now. Earlier also, she was never interested in sex and all my efforts to arouse her ,everything has failed. She is not even interested in reading erotic stuff,seeing an erotic movie or even talking about it. She simply wants to finish it as a routine job and has failed to make it enjoyable for me,however she enjoys it. We haven’t had anything other than a straight fuck,forget about different positions like doggy, woman on top,etc..Nor have we done oral and anal. I am 34 now and can’t control my desire. As a result, I started searching satisfaction somewhere else like going to call girls and masseurs,even tried with a girl friend for a short while. But now,even going to them is not exciting. I want real excitement in life but fear that a girl friend or an extra marital affair can sometimes be destructive if I have an emotional involvement. I am in my marriage only because of two lovely kids I have. Please guide me what to do?

  17. raj says:

    hello anjali,
    how ru??? i want to ask u about my penis size its small like about 4inch…n i will be marring soon so i want to take ur help that how can i increas the size n till what size i can increase it that i can make my partner fully satisfied. i hope u will reply my question….bye

  18. Adee says:

    Hye Anjali, Firstly a very cute and lovable hug for you on what you have done. I am from Pakistan from last 6 to 7 months i am visiting this superb site and reading you outstanding and marvelous comments, helps and suggestion for the whole world. So i thought to ask you something very stupid (according to me) happening in my life. So lets come to the topic.

    I am 24 years old boy.I am much slim with 6 inches long and 2 inches thick dick. Is this is a suitable length to satisfy any women. What do u think if it is you?

    Secondly i have a big problem that i think is due to my silky skin. Whenever i watches adult movies i got excited. My dick stand and drops of a fluid comes out regulatory and with a good flow.What to do with this?

    Thirdly my problem of early ejaculation. I cant hold long more then 5 minutes.I have practiced your START STOP exercise but in vain. Please help me in this regard.

    Lastly i think my dick skin is very soft because it gets horny very quickly. Whenever i kisses my gf or just touches her or even just talk to her on the phone, my dick stands and drops of a fluid comes out regulatory and with a good flow. This thing sometimes creates problem for me and creates a bad impression on her.

    REMEMBER IN MY COUNTRY IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO DISCUSS THESE THINGS WITH ANY DOCTOR. SO DONT REFER ME TO ANY DOCTOR. PLEASE SUGGEST ME SOME GOOD MEDICINES WITHOUT ANY SIDE EFFECT.IF IT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR YOU TO REPLY ME ON THE SITE. DO SEND YOUR REPLY ON MY EMAIL ADDRESS PLEASE.

    HUNGRILY WAITING FOR YOUR REPLY

  19. Saurabh says:

    i love a girl who is 2years 9 months older than me . she loves me too . her family mem bers are finding her groom and she is dedicated towards her husband from her chilhhood only that she can have touch and sex only wiyh him . every night we talk 4 , 5 hours and nowadays she stars sex talks at the beginning of our converstion only . she says me her heart beat goes faster when listen my voice or i kiss or when i say i am touching your nipple and other private parts . but when i say i want to touch your whole body she says yes you can but when i say when we will meet next time i will touch then she hesitate a little and says this she can do after our marriage . now she is tatally commited to and enjoys my company . because i care about her everything , her health , she has taken the food or not and all other cares completely like a husband and she likes my this behaviour . when she is little bit sleepy in night talk around 3, 4 am in morning time she all her feeling and tells me she wants every thing from me and i can do anything whatever i want . so please help how to convince her to have sex with me . i want her to exlore my whole body and vice versa . when i tell touch your boobs and circle around your nipple so does but when i ask is getting tight she says no and not haviny any sensation and says me if you will touch then i might get some sensation . she kisses me lot in night and tells me to kiss everywhere on her body with a brief description of kiss on her body parts . even she tells me something is happening inside which is not descriable and only she can feel that . she tells something happening around her heart areas . soooooooo lpease help to convince to have full satisfying sex with her …..and i not want to lose her .

  20. Saurabh says:

    hungrily waiting for your reply for my above query ……….. please give answer at my email id ………… any how i want to explore her body with fuck and all other passion . dont think i am wrong or i dont love her ….. but feeling have been always been very deep passionate about love with sex . i cannnot think of any other women ……..

    please reply me as fast as possible . i will ask u some other questions also .

  21. malla says:

    if i was masturbating always means i a=cannot give birth to a child ah

  22. tez says:

    dear anjali i need your help please me and my gf have been togther for over a year we kiss and she even lets my suck and plays with her breasts but the problem is she wont let me touch her pussy so i was wondering if you could give some tips on how to suck and play with her breasts to get her hot and horny as im not sure im doing it right plz do answer as we are getting married too !

    thank you

  23. Saurabh says:

    please answer me fast ……. very fast as soon as possible…….. its urgent byeeeee

  24. viji says:

    Dear Anjali…Thanks a lot for all your advices…Hearing advices from a woman’s point of view is much more better for a guy…You are of a great help.i am 28 yrs old…my penis size is 12.5 cm’s..is it normal for tamil guys..and also want to know the tamilians normal penis size in cm’s..then also i want to increase my penis size,is there any seperate excercise for that?and how can i do…i want to know the 1)what r the different types of start and stop method & explain? 2) how to do excercise for different type of start and stop method?.. 3)what r the benifits by doing the start and stop different method exercise..pls explain brief?…i am eagerly waiting for ur valuable reply…pls help me to give a great sex to my would be…

  25. hanif says:

    Hey Aunty can you please suggest me some different ways of masturbating….

  26. praveen says:

    hi anjali i have had sex with 10 standard girl last week i was afraid when she came to my home i was in bath he came to my house to taik with my sister but i sister had left to job she saw me in my underwear and she ran away and then she came back and she gave me a letter and told i show horny told and she catched my cook and i was also so horny and we had good job with her and now we are afraid about her pregnency wat to do sexy aunty

  27. srabon says:

    sex before marrieed do u support it. what is ur opinion about it.

  28. Abbssy says:

    i agree wit her

  29. Abbssy says:

    hi anjali…i’ve a question for u ….u said penis size may increase by drugs or chemical …how is this possible?

  30. sunil says:

    hi anjali aunty thanks for your work.
    i am 20 years old guy and i want to have sex with my girlfriend the problem is that i dont want to use condom and nither i want to make her pregnant.please help me out so that i can enjoy with her without condom and without making her pregnant

  31. aami says:

    dear anjli,
    i have spent a happy and healthy married life for 16 years. i and my wife are both sexually healthy and fit. in these sixteen years, i don’t remember a single chance that ever i ejaculated before my wife. the main problem is this that my wife does not become hot daily but i want daily sex. i tries so many trick learn t from your replies but failed. she becomes hot only twice in a week. how can i prepare her daily ?

  32. pankaj says:

    i just want to know what is the feeling when a big and long penis enters in the vagina. is it more satisfying then small one.

  33. arvind says:

    i masturbate usually 5 times a week is it harmful for my health?pls reply

  34. Jaan says:

    Hi aunty,i am regular reader of your answer.
    Thanks to you for your great job.I like ur stlye of giving answer to ur reader.so i am also interested to know about my problem from you. I am 20 yrs old with a 65 kg
    Weghit body.Though i m 20 yrs old my penis
    Size is only 4″long with 1.3″fat.
    Now my quesition is-
    1) Can i satisfy a girl like other people who has long and fat dick ?
    2) Is there any medicine which help to increase the size of penis ?
    3) is ther any problem in my sexlife for my small penis ?
    Pls aunty give me a solution.
    I am in confusion for this problem and worried about my future.
    Plz give me ur answer to my email id if it possibole.
    I am waiting for ur answer.
    Plz plz plz help me.

  35. Daniel says:

    Hi!

    I love this site very much. I am married 34 yrs bangladeshi. i live in Dhaka, farmgate. I love sex and looking for a bangali girl for part time sex relation. No matter girl are married/unmarried/widow. But as BD girl are conservative till now i don’t get any1. Can u help me to find out a bangladeshi girl who live in Dhaka & like to do parttime sex.

    PLz plz plz help me.

    Daniel

  36. Daniel says:

    Hi!

    I love this site very much. I am married 34 yrs bangladeshi. i live in Dhaka, farmgate. I love sex and looking for a bangali girl for part time sex relation. No matter girl are married/unmarried/widow. But as BD girl are conservative till now i don’t get any1. Can u help me to find out a bangladeshi girl who live in Dhaka & like to do parttime sex. if any bd girl looking for part time sex cont w me my e-mail: banglar_kharap_pola@yahoo.com

    PLz plz plz help me.

    Daniel

  37. kabir says:

    my peni is small and i masturbate regularly my age is 25 and i cumm with in 2 min tel me wat 2 do

    reply soon

  38. jeevan says:

    hi aunty…
    im 18 years old…i have a thought in my head which is very much
    irritating me since 2 years….my penis size is 5 inches…i masturbate daily once….i ejaculate in 3 minutes….is this normal or premature…plz give me the average time for normal ejaculation…
    will i be able to satisfy anyone given the above sie and time….
    plz do reply and clear my problem……

  39. jeevan says:

    this is a very good site..

  40. sam says:

    where will get ur blue film?plzzzzzzz give me address

  41. jeevan kumar says:

    hi aunty…
    im 18 years old…i have a thought in my head which is very much
    irritating me since 2 years….my penis size is 5 inches…i masturbate daily once….i ejaculate in 3 minutes….is this normal or premature…plz give me the average time for normal ejaculation…
    will i be able to satisfy anyone given the above sie and time….
    plz do reply and clear my problem……

  42. Jaan says:

    Hi aunty,
    I m 20 yrs old boy but my penis is very small.
    It is 4″ long and 1.3 fat.My weight is 65 kg.
    I have some question to you.
    Plz give answer of my question then I shall know the unknown truth from you.
    I haven’t recieved my previous answer from you so i feel to submit my question again.
    Here my question is –
    1)Can I satisfy a girl like other people who has big dick ?
    2)Is there any medicine which help to increase the dick size ?
    3)Is big dick more satisfying than small one ?
    Pls submit your answer.
    Plz aunty.
    I m in very confusion about my sex life, plz help me.

  43. krishnan says:

    Hi Aunty,

    I am a male 26 from bangalore and unmarried. I have a strong sexual orientation and have been masturbating for last 10 years almost regularly. I have developed an habit of stroking the cock and when it is erect i wound rubber bond around my cock. I feel it increases pressure in my cock and do slow masturbation for about one hour by reading porn books or porn movies. In fact i have developed home made vagina for the purpose. I ejaculate while rubber band is still on my cock. It gives satisfaction. Is it wrong to use rubber band on cocks. I have seen movies men using cock rings. Aunty please guide me. Have come across men using rubber bands while having intercourse with women.

  44. maddy says:

    hai,, thanks for ur wonderfull job .. here i want some help from you….i am bored with my masterbiting i want some thing new to be done without any painfull.. i used to shake my penies up and down yhis is one i do .. plese ell me some good ideas……..

  45. yogs says:

    Hi Anjali.. I’m a athletic guy (age 23) having penis size of 5.3 inches only but my grith is around 6 inches . i got scared that i wont got big enough in future and wont make woman satisfy.. how can improve my penis size plz give me ideas abt it. and food stuff for it…Does girls get satisfied with this length..

  46. তুহিন says:

    hey anjali i want to fuck u will u allow me

  47. john says:

    hey mam…….
    l want sme hlp frm u..
    i have a wild fantacy of incest.
    i want to fuck my mom..
    my dad is a business man and he will come only at night.how to seduce my mom??

  48. Manoj says:

    Hi Anjali,

    I will be very greatful to you if you guide me in my problem. Last week I was with my girlfriend for the first time but my penis didnt get erected or it use to erect and immediately it was going to normal. Even I tried 3 or 4 times in a whole day also i did lot of foreplay and enjoyed her body but still that didnt work. Could you please tell me the reason and also the solution for this. Or this means I have some problem in sex life. Please help me.

    Regards,
    Manoj

  49. Manky says:

    Hi anjali aunti ..first and foremost thank you so much for helping us .coming back to my problem.i have noticed this many a times that i ejaculate in just 2 mins and this is been having from past 1-2 years,i counsulted married friend of myn and was asked for stop and go theory which i practiced but i dunno y it still dint workedout..Than a friend of myn counslted my xylocaline 2% with which i get a stand for 15 mins and m able to satisfy my partner & its nthing like dat i dnt go for a fourplay actually i luv fourplay more dan intercourse..a lot of women hav told me that m damn gud with it..i dunno y i dnt wannu use xylocaline instad i want natural enhancemnt because my sexual life is uncertain it happns any time and its not convinent for my to carry xylocaine with me evrytime.plaese help me out.

  50. rajendra says:

    hi anjli,

    The way u answer i found it very practical. so thought why not to ask u about the time duration of a sexual activity.

    for foreplay

    &

    main course
    specially once the pennies is inserted what is the right time duration to finish.

    your reply may help all male / female readers to get right idea about sex specially for those who inspire by porn film that long dick and long time duration.

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