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Savita says: I have had guys enjoy pushing in long brinjals and moolis in my pussy. Of course I also enjoyed this and I came to know the depths of my pussy and also how much it can be stretched. It’s really amazing and un imaginable.

But I have not come across any website/ stories/ videos of this sexual act. Is this un-natural? Any problems with this?

Anjali says: Hi Savita. I am glad that you are thinking creatively and learning of new ways to turn on you and your partners. Many young people think that what they do is not normal but for every thing that you and others have thought of or done there are other people out there that enjoy it as well. It may not be as talked about though.

Once when I was surfing some porn sites with a “friend” we came across a site where young women were inserting bizarre objects into their pussies. Bottles, hair brushes, etc. Pretty much anything you can think of. It was really sexy and so we decided to experiment. We tried a bunch of household things and some of them felt really good – others not so much. It’s not something that I’ve done again but it is good to experiment. If both parties are ok with it and it is not hurting anyone then that is between you and your partner. Enjoy your sex life and don’t worry about what others do and don’t do! It is for you and your partner to decide.

By the way, I can’t remember what the name of the website was but I’m sure if you put “bizarre insertions” or “stretched pussies” or something similar into a search engine you should come up with something! Good luck!

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Rahul Rob says: The job done by you is superb. Carry on. I have a question for you. Is too much masturbating is harmful? Is it causes some future problem? Will too much sperm loss cause any harmful in future intercourse with my wife? Whether it will affect my reproductive function?

Anjali says: Hi Rahul Rob – I am glad you are enjoying the blog!

Now, men should not worry about masturbation being physically harmful. It simply isn’t. You won’t get sick. You won’t lose sperm count. You will not have problems with intercourse. It will not affect your ability to reproduce. However, you should be wary of how it might affect your relationship. If you have no girlfriend or wife – wank off to your hearts content! Better than running around with a woody all day. But if you do have a girlfriend or a wife? Be careful that you do not let masturbating become a substitute for your sexual intimacy with her. It is easy to just masturbate when you want to cum instead of going to your wife for intimacy.

Instead, make masturbation a part of your sex life. Let her watch you masturbate. Ask her to let you masturbate. You know, I never knew that could be so exciting until a partner asked me to do it. I was kind of embarrassed when I first tried it but then he started asking me questions about what I was doing and what felt best and then he’d make suggestions. It made me very horny and our only rule about it was that we had to hold off our orgasms until we were ready to cum together.

So, masturbate if you like but don’t let it get in the way of your love life with your wife!

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Raj says: Hi Anjali. It’s fascinating to know that being a woman you are answer questions relating to porn. It’s a great job that you are doing. Congrats. Well, my question is, whenever I perform oral sex on my girlfriend I lick her clitoris. She gets to orgasm immediately and there is a rush of fluid and I can hear a sound of wind from her pussy and she withdraws immediately saying she is too tired after the orgasm. How can she and I enjoy for a long time. Are there any exercises that can prolong her fluid coming too early?

Anjali says: Hi Raj. It sounds like you have a very satisfied girlfriend – now the trick is to make you both satisfied!

First, you should stay away from her clit for awhile. If it gets touched without any other stimulation it is no wonder she explodes so quickly! Spend some time on her breasts, then some finger play, then penetration. Get some pleasure for yourself as you pleasure her in other ways before direct clitoral stimulation. When you feel like you are getting close or she is needing more attention, take a break from penetration and now move to going down on her. Lick her labia, her vagina – but stay away from her clit! You might want to give her a little tease by using your tongue very gently and only for a few seconds on her clit. But then move back to other parts.

Sometimes guys forget that there are other parts of a woman’s pussy that can be stimulated. Personally, I love it when a guy circles his tongue around the entrance of my vagina! That is the part of the vagina that has the most nerve endings. If you stayed there you could likely make her cum but we don’t want that right away do we? The labia also become engorged and full when a woman is excited and I love it when my guy sucks gently on them. Now, when you are ready, bring her as close to orgasm as possible without her actually exploding (this might take some practice but that’s half the fun). Then, just before you think she will cum, slide your cock inside her and either lean forward so your groin rubs her clit or manually rub her clit with your thumb as her pump inside her. With some practice you can make it work so she will cum while you are inside her which will make you cum at the same time! I love this feeling – it is something that is so intimate and pleasurable to cum with your partner at the same time!

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Not Interested says: Hi Aunty Anjali. I had a girlfriend and I was interested in sex but she was not. One day I convinced her and took her to my room. When I was doing sex she said it was very painful. Then I immediately took my penis out and I observed that it was covered in blood. Please tell me what happened to my girlfriend. Waiting for your answer.

Anjali says: Dear boy, sex for the first time can be very traumatic for a girl as yes, it can be painful, and yes, there can be blood. The blood is no doubt because her hymen had not been broken yet. The hymen is a small ring at the entrance of a girls vagina and it sometimes breaks before she has sex (like if she falls a certain way or if she often rides horses) but if it has not broken yet there will likely be some bleeding. It does not mean she is hurt but it can make the first time somewhat painful at first.

The thing to remember about having sex with a girl that is inexperienced is that first of all, she must be ready for it. If you have to do too much convincing then she might be pressured into it and not really want it. It is important that she wants it as much as you do. Second, she must be relaxed. If she is not relaxed all the muscles in her body will be tight and it will be that much more difficult to penetrate her. Third, she has to be excited and wet otherwise it will not be good. Spend lots of time in foreplay – kissing, touching, petting, licking – all these things are good!

My first time was not so difficult for me because I had already been masturbating for years. I had broken my own hymen using my fingers without even knowing it. And my lover spent a lot of time touch and licking and sucking – especially at my full breasts! It felt very good and when he penetrated me it did hurt a bit and I did bleed a bit but I was so excited that it soon started to feel good.

Give her some more time and wait until she is ready.

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Asim says: Hi Anjalie. My question is that I am going to get married to a girl that has been married before. I am single and have not had sex before. She is my age but was married and she has a kid. I want to know if after getting married she will be active in sex like me or not? And what about her pussy? Will it be tight or loose? Will I enjoy it with her or not?

Anjali says: First Asim, congratulations on your upcoming marriage! It is a very excited time and I wish you both lots of happiness.

Second, you must first know that every girl is different and her past experiences or lack of experiences will have a lot to do with whether or not she likes sex as much as you. Also, how you treat her may have something to do with it. You need to try different things and see how she reacts. Try being soft and gently. Try being aggressive. How does she respond?

Because she has been in a marriage before she might be more confident than other women your age. She may already know what pleases her and be able to tell you what she likes. This is a good thing for your because it will take out much of the guess work. I would say there is likely a good chance that you will have good sex with her. However, if you find that she is not responding you should talk to her about her previous relationship and make it clear to her that you are not like her other husband and that you want to make her happy. Find out what he was like and then don’t be like that!

As for her pussy – well, to give you an example, I have been having sex for many years and not one lover has ever complained that my pussy was loose! In fact, many of them are in awe over how tight it is! That is because I take great care to make sure my pussy muscles are strong! A woman’s vagina is by nature very elastic and will generally bounce back into shape. At your young age, you should have no problem and I am sure that sex will be wonderful!

Happy sex to both of you!

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I love you all my friends and would like to answer each and every one of you but you have so many questions! I can only answer some so please be patient and understanding! Kisses, Aunty Anjali

Sunny says: I am facing a problem – please suggest the solution of this problem. My foreskin can’t retract. My age is 23 and now it creates problems some time during sex.
Please guide me how to retract foreskin. If it can done by me or if there is any other solution of this problem like a consult with surgeon.

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Siva says: Hi Anjali. I am 24 years old. Whenever I find time, I used to read all your answers. They are pretty interesting. My problem is that I like to masturbate. The past 5 years I have tried to stop now and then but I can’t. When I do, I think my penis is getting smaller. I am really worried. Also, I can’t get my skin back when it is erect. It is painful. I am worried.

Anjali says: Hi Sunny and Siva. It is not so uncommon when men are uncircumcised that their foreskin does not completely retract. However, I would not try to remedy this yourself. It could potentially be dangerous and you may cause more harm than good. Instead you should go see your family doctor. Since you can have sex (even though it is sometimes painful) it leads me to believe that you can partially retract it – just not all the way. The doctor can likely do a simple surgery that will be almost painless. Good Luck.

Siva, if you are concerned about masturbating too much you should find some new interests and new friends to keep you busy. Sometimes when you are thinking about sex the least, that is when you will find a girl and you won’t need to masturbate so much. Although she might like watching you! I like to watch a man do his stroking – it’s lots of fun, even though it does get a little messy. And I can’t always let him get all the way to the end of his job without lending a hand! But don’t worry. Your penis is not likely getting smaller, but your muscles may be weaking. Make them stronger by doing exercises. Once exercise you can do when you’re relieving yourself in the bathroom is to stop and start your stream. Do this every time you go to the bathroom and your penile muscles will get stronger again.

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And please remember dears, there is only one of me and many questions. You can re-post your question if I haven’t answered it after a month or you can read through the archives of my Ask Anjali posts!

Jai says: Hi Anjali Aunty, I loved the way which you are replying back to our questions. I am going to get married soon. I have some doubt in sex Anjali, I need your help. Is it safe to lick or suck pussy? Because most of my friends are saying different opinions related to this. Please clarify me.

Anjali says: Hi Jai and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.

First thing I will tell you is this: don’t assume your friends are right. There are many misunderstandings when it comes to sex and taking someone’s word as truth can get you in trouble.

Second, it is absolutely safe to lick or suck pussy! In fact, I won’t have a repeat sexual encounter with a man who won’t go down on me! To me it is very important as it gives me a great deal of satisfaction. There is nothing like the feel of a man’s tongue to drive me wild! A woman’s private parts are no more unsafe or unsanitary than a man’s penis. It is a natural part of love making and good sex. If you’re wife is willing to go down on you and put your penis in her mouth then you should be willing to return the favor.

If you’re really concerned, make bath time or shower time a regular part of your lovemaking. It can be great foreplay and lots of fun and that’s what sex should be all about – having fun. So enjoy her body – every inch of it – and give her pleasure and I am sure she will give you much pleasure in return!

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And please remember, there is only one of me and you all have so many questions – I can not possibly answer everyone’s questions! I’m sorry sorry my friends. I try to give you a good variety though!

Ramesh says: I am 45 and married with a kid. My wife is very hot and wants me to fuck her frequently and wants it very hard. Due to my age and stress in work I am not able to satisfy her frequently and the way she wants, because of which we have frequent fights. Moreover she is overweight and is not able to have sex in different positions. Because of this I now feel like going to call girl and satisfy myself in different positions. Very strange situation. Kindly advise.

Anjali says: Hi Ramesh. You are very lucky to want a wife that desires you so much. I assume that you are still attracted to her but just want different positions right? And she wants rough sex? Ok – I will give you solutions to both.

To satisfy her, my suggestion would be bondage. Women who like rough sex ultimately like the feeling of a loss of control. So, if she is willing, tie her up. While she is tied up that will give you the opportunity to take the time you need to get her aroused. Maybe try a little spanking, hard nipple pinches. I know that kind of thing drives me wild! You can make this last as long as you want and you can get her so turned on that it will not take her long to cum. When I undergo a session like this it takes very little rough sex to make me reach orgasm. So, when you think she can’t take it anymore, then you go as full throttle as you are comfortable with, and she will cum fast!

Now, for different positions you can use accessories that will make her weight issue unimportant. I have had a lot of fun using pillows. When strategically placed these can make sex new and interesting and even a little kinky! But something else I’ve recently discovered are sex wedges. These are like firm pillows that are shaped to make positions such as those found in the kama sutra a possibility for every day people. I tell you, these things helped me to put my body in positions I didn’t know were possible and find hot spots I didn’t know existed. Just do a search in any search engine for “sex wedges” and you should find some interesting toys!

Good luck Ramesh and good sex!

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