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The trends and traditions surrounding seduction tend to change with time, but I think there are a few universal ones that are timeless. Any man with such ambitions should recognise and embrace such skills, one of which is the Art of Flattery.

There are very fine lines to take care of; timing is crucial, and, above all else, ingenuity and subtlety are essential for success. The challenge lies in making the compliment to appear both natural and genuine. It can’t be forced or fake and it shouldn’t appear as sex bait. Perhaps it is most important to acknowledge that all women (including me) appreciate compliments; any girl who says otherwise like – “oh, only insecure women need flattery” is lying.

Still, too many men don’t really think about flattery. They merely accept it as par of the game and throw out a contrived little compliment, falsely believing that the girl is impressed. It can be difficult to make a woman blush with nothing more than words, but most ladies treasure such oral ability. How to master your game? Well read on.

Lesson 1 – Observe Before Complimenting.

Any horny dumbass can wander up to a hot bhabhi and say something idiotic like “Damn, you’re hot!” And anyone can use a standard, generic compliment like “Your smile is so amazing” or “I just love your eyes” or“Wow, you are pretty and smart!” This is not the art of flattery guys. If you want to make an impression, take a few moments to observe, and then form a compliment that is unique to her. It really isn’t that difficult. Maybe she is wearing something original – like a dress, shoes or earings and it is clear that she took some time in selecting it. Maybe it really make an interesting contrast – blue eyes and brown hair, for instance – or perhaps she draws all eyes with her skilled dancing. Look, it doesn’t take long; within minutes of first speaking to her, you should have sufficient information for effective and original flattery.

Lesson 2 – Don’t go overboard.

Due to the fact that most women are polite and aren’t willing to say, “Ok, that’s enough,” the guy often doesn’t know when to stop. But there are times and places for certain comments and if you mash them together all at once, they lose a lot of impact and poignancy. In fact, compliments should be spontaneous; they should emerge from your mouth the instant they hit your mind. There is nothing more genuine than spontaneity, and planned compliments are nowhere near as well-received.

If you think a lady can’t tell the difference, well, you’re in dire need of an education baby. The point is that women can actually suffocate under an ever-thickening layer of compliments, especially if they’re planned out too much. These are easily predictable and quickly dismissed. As with any other element of the flirting game, compliments require a deft touch.

Lesson 3 – It’s about her, not you.

Lesson 4 – Different dating phases, different compliments.

Lesson 5 – Not all compliments are verbal.

Lesson 6 – Deliver the unexpected.

As always, practice makes perfect…

I thought this was an interesting if not exactly a very sexual topic of discussion for this Sunday. Guys do tell us about your successes and failures in the Art of Flattery. I am sure the senior Players will have a lot to say. Be good guys – be gentlemen.

Love you loads,

-Anjali

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