I am married for more thn 8 yrs and my hubby is abroad.
In the last few months I have been involved in extra marital affairs.
The guy actually I fell in love used me like sex object and unfortunately involved me in relations with his friends too.
Now he left from my life and I had got sum addiction getting physical with more guys.
I want to know that what I am doing is right when its hidden from my husband?
I am not able to use my brain now and I can't control my desires and am not able to think right or wrong.
Please suggest me that can I get rid of this addiction.
Answer Given By Our AA Team Moderator 'Sexysalma' -
Seema, you've got yourself in a right royal muddle here. OTHER PEOPLE THINKING ABOUT EMAs PLEASE NOTE!!!!!!!!
You were lonely and vulnerable, so you were easy prey for any man who flattered you into thinking he loved you; but the consequences have become a serious problem. I think the effect of this guy using you has destroyed your confidence and self esteem, and you are trying to compensate for a lack of love and affection with physical pleasures to which you now find it impossible to live without.
In the first instance, I blame guys for this when they go abroad to work, leaving a wife at home, lonely and neglected. The all consuming pursuit of money has consequences for relationships, and what good is it if you have material goods but are empty of what really matters?
Seema, I think you have to make a life for yourself without this man who loves money so much, but cares so little for you. There are good men that you will find if you take the time to know them as people rather than sex buddies. Your life needs to be more than a lonely existence full of self doubt and self loathing, punctuated by orgasmic interludes at the hands of men who have no feeling for you as a person. Someone who loves you and will be loved by you is all you really need, and oce found, this need for vicarious sexual thrills will fade away.
Please learn to love yourself, and then others will see the inner beauty of your personality and love you as you deserve.
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